3.6.21 – Daily Dose of Worship. A study on Matthew. Part 34.

Matthew 5:31 – 32 gets into some pretty heavy and somewhat controversial topics. Let’s read on:

“Now it was said, ‘Whoever sends his wife away is to give her a certificate of divorce’; but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Bibleref.org says this:

The standard for divorce in the ancient world was low. Practically speaking, a husband could divorce a wife for almost any reason at any time. The hardest part might be coming up with a legal technicality to use as an excuse. In that era, culture was completely dominated by male authority. Women were generally held in lower regard. Worse, it was extremely difficult for unmarried women to conduct business or own property. Being divorced, for women of Jesus’ era, included losing one’s finances and future.

Jesus once again demonstrates God’s true and original intent. In this case, God means for marriages to be for life. Rather than agreeing that marriages can or should be dissolved for petty reasons, Christ describes divorces motivated by something less than sexual immorality to be invalid. That’s not to say this is the one and only reason of any kind that might justify a divorce. The primary point is that a man may not legitimately divorce his wife unless she violates the marriage through adultery or some other sexual immorality

Because the divorce is invalid, the man is guilty of causing his wife to commit adultery when she remarries another man. In the same way, a man who marries a woman whose divorce was not for a valid reason also becomes guilty of adultery. From Jesus’ view, false divorces—no matter how legal the religious leaders say they are—lead to more and more adultery. He was shockingly clear about the penalty for adultery and lust.

Jesus’ teaching here is not simply a reflection of some obscure, fussy rule. It’s because God instituted marriage, and deeply values it for its own sake. Marriage is not only the fundamental relationship of every culture; it is meant to be a representation of Christ and the church 

I know there are many views on this topic and these verses. My point here isn’t to spark debate but to simply state the verse and then one reference to the verse.

Feel free to comment below on your interpretation of this. I’m open to all discussion points here as long as they are without judgement for another person.

9 Comments

  1. Maurice K on March 6, 2021 at 1:45 am

    I need to ask forgiveness for committing adultery according to Mathews account. I got divorced because we couldn’t get on and because of biblical conflicts. I was a Christian and she wasn’t.
    Now I am getting married to a divorced woman. I’m not going to mock God, I need to ask God for forgiveness

  2. Patti S on March 6, 2021 at 6:55 am

    For the context of my response, I am a Marriage and Family Therapist.
    I do work with couples that are going thru divorce. However, for guidance as to Scriptural references that can be referred to, sometimes supportively, sometimes as a weapon, my direction is to have them speak to a trusted minister/priest. So important for it to be someone he/she trusts.

    Divorce is so painful, even if a person decides it must be done. Even if it must be done because of abuse.
    No matter the reason for a divorce, it causes the ‘ripping’ apart of a union. The pain comes in that, the emotional undoing.
    God knew that, knows that – the pain it would cause.
    But He also wants to be reached out to in the guidance.

    Because of Him

  3. Suzanne on March 6, 2021 at 8:50 am

    My parents have been married for 59 years
    My sister and her husband have been married for 34 years.
    My brother and my sister-in-law have been married for 25 years and
    Dave and I celebrated 30 years last October
    I considered us extremely blessed…it has not been easy…the trials and tribulations that my
    parents have faced and overcome is awe inspiring. They not only have had their trials but they have my siblings and mine also.
    All the laws of Moses were difficult to attain, that difficulty leads to our need for a lord and savior.

    I can’t say my family is better at marriage than anyone else
    however, I will say that all 4 marriages include Jesus…
    a three strand cord is not easily broken Ecclesiastes 4:12
    In Christ, we have endured

    • Sherri H on March 6, 2021 at 9:43 am

      Amen Suzanne im proud and happy that this is the case in all the above marriages I always push up people who have been married for long lengths of time, unfortunately I can’t say the same did I go into them expecting to divorce not at all yet circumstances had other ideas

      • Suzanne on March 6, 2021 at 9:48 am

        I am truly sorry.

  4. Suzanne R on March 6, 2021 at 9:42 am

    Suzanne, you could be writing about my family as well. Before my Dad passed, my parents had been married for 54 yrs. They also had many trials during their marriage. My husband and I will celebrate 35 yrs this July. My sister will be celebrating 34 yrs in June. My brother just celebrated 21 yrs of marriage. They all have included Jesus as well. Thank you for your testimony.

  5. Jonathan B on March 6, 2021 at 10:17 am

    I take these verses a bit differently. When we “divorce” from a person we need to separate amicably so there is little ill will. God puts people in our path and some stick like glue for the long run, some barely stick and “latch on”. and still some stick, but fall away because the glue is not strong. We need to keep the relationships strong with communications and love. “Divorcing someone” takes time, but some times it’s necessary.
    As for marriage my wife and I have been married for 23 yrs, and together for almost 30 yrs. Blessings to all.

  6. Peggy F on March 6, 2021 at 12:28 pm

    Divorce, for any reason is a death. Death of the life of love and relationship that one expected to last ” for all our days on earth” . I know this to be true, and I wrote a poem to try to express how I felt , I hope this is OK Dave to share…….maybe it will help someone.

    A Poem It is so sad……………Why do you pull away to avoid the sharing and caring that the intimacy of marriage should be? We get just so close……………..And then you slam the door…….closed.

    We stood together in dominion and conquered the enemy through our oneness. Our united prayer and our united spirits and put the past behind us, ………..the mistakes, the failures, the hurt, the betrayals…………conquered through the blood of Jesus and our oneness in Him.

    And slowly, ………………the door began to open. And the time of sharing…….our thoughts and days, …..our plans and prayers……………sitting and talking on the beach, ………..being friends again……laughing, glad of each other’s company

    And our bodies in physical oneness and open expression of honesty and love……….I touched you and you touched me……and it was sweet

    And we began to build a foundation. A solid base, A loving soil for our love to grow……………A new beginning………………..A life to love…………to share/

    It is so sad……………………………..

    For reasons or fears or something unknown to me…………the door is closed. Shut on our growing intimacy…………..were we getting too close?

    The walls of defensive attitudes go up once again……….the harsh words……….walls of indifference…no longer time to be alone…..too busy…….honest lines of communication once again……………………cut

    Is it easier to be strangers? And seek friendship somewhere else?

    It is so sad……………………….

    Is it easier to pass as ships in dark of night….going right by one another and waving…………and moving on…avoiding coming into the harbor…….to anchor…..and beach our ships…to touch one another?

    It is so sad…………………

    This devotion stirred up so much today, and taking it all to the Lord in prayer. Blessings!

    • Patti S on March 6, 2021 at 4:45 pm

      Peggy, I am praying for you.
      Patti

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